Thursday, October 17, 2013


Friend - n. 1) a person whom one knows well and is fond of, 2) an ally, supporter, or sympathizer.

Acquaintance - n. 1) Knowledge got from personal experience, 2) a person whom one knows slightly.

Pal - n. 1) A close friend.

Buddy - n. 1) a comrade; pal.

Comrade - n. 1) a friend; close companion,  2) an associate.

How loosely we throw around the name/title "friend".  

Five Characteristics of a Close (True) Friend by Frank Viola
  1. A close friend rejoices in your joys and sorrows over your pains. A true friend is not just sympathetic, they are empathetic. They share your feelings, weeping with you when you weep and rejoicing with you when you rejoice.
  2. A close friend won’t defriend you if you disagree. Friendships are tested when there is a disagreement. But true friends don’t cut you off because of it. They may tell you what they think you need to hear and vice versa. But they will do it in such a way where you can receive it. The reason is because you know they love you unconditionally more than they love their views.
  3. A close friend stays in regular contact with you. I have friends who contact me from time to time and vice versa (once or twice a year). We regard each other as good friends. But a close friend this doth not make. Close friends communicate fairly regularly.
  4. A close friend is someone whom you trust implicitly. They have earned your trust. Consequently, you don’t doubt that they have your back. And you don’t fear that they will stab you in the back. You trust them enough to confide in them about highly private and confidential matters. Close friendship brings with it disclosure (John 15:15).
  5. A close friend will stand by you, defend you, even take a bullet for you when you’re under attack. To my mind, this is perhaps the highest measure of friendship or one of the rock-bottom “tests.” The posture of a true friend is, “If you hurt my friend, you’ve hurt me.” It is never, “Well, that person never did anything to hurt me, so it’s not my issue.” This attitude is what separates goats from black sheep. :-) True friends stand with and stand up for each other.

9 Things a true friend will never Mark & Angel Hack Life

1.  Criticize you for being flawed.

As flawed as you might be, as out of place as you sometimes feel, and as lacking as you think you are, you don’t have to hide all the imperfect pieces of yourself from a true friend.  They see your flaws as features that make you interesting and beautiful.
The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations.  True friends love and appreciate each other just the way they are.

2.  Walk away when times get tough.

True friendship and good character is all about how a person nurtures another person when they are vulnerable and can give very little in return.  Thus, it’s not who’s standing beside you during good times, but the ones who stick by you through tough times that are your true friends.
So take note of who remains in your life when times get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most.  Seriously, when you come out the other side of a difficult period in your life, look around you.  The people still standing besideyou are your true friends.

3.  Discourage you.

Unfortunately, some who seem like your friends will try to hold you back from your full potential.  It may be difficult, but don’t let these negative imposters bring you down.  Don’t ever let your so-called friends turn your sky into a ceiling.  Beware of friends who try to belittle your ambitions.  Small hearts and minds always do that.  The greatest hearts and minds – the people you should spend time around – make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Remember, encouraging things happen when you distance yourself from discouraging people.  Doing so doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. 

4.  Hold a grudge over your head.

Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved beyond them.  They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you.  Do not help them by acknowledging their begrudging behavior.  Let go of their negativity,  find peace, and liberate yourself!
A true friend never holds the unchangeable past against you; instead, they help your repair your present and future.  If someone relentlessly judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to take matters into your own hands, and repair your present and future by leaving them behind.

5.  Lie to you.

When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person – you’re both lying and being unfriendly to YOU.
If you know someone who avoids the truth by telling you only what you want to hear, they do so for their own benefit, not yours.  They are not a true friend and they don’t deserve to be treated as such.

6.  Pretend like they have all the answers.

If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life – the ones who truly made a difference – you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems.  They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway.
Don’t look for a friend who will solve all your problems; look for one who will face them with you.  

7.  Take from you without giving back.

You deserve to be with friends who make you smile – friends who don’t take you for granted – friends who won’t leave you hanging.  When you notice that a friend is always taking from you without giving back, you might need to distance yourself from them for a while.  If they care, they’ll notice.  If they don’t, you know where you stand.
You should want to give, but you shouldn’t be forced to always give more than you get.  If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, respect yourself enough to confront the situation.  This doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends with those who you feel are at fault, but you need to evaluate your friendships and realize where to draw the line when you give yourself to certain people.

8.  Bully you.

It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but just as much to stand up to your friends.  Sometimes bullying comes from the most unlikely places.  Be cognizant of how your friends treat you, and look out for the subtle jabs they throw.  When necessary, confront them or distance yourself from them – whatever it takes to give yourself the opportunity to grow into who you really are.
Life’s too short to be hanging around people who try to control and manipulate you.  Anyone who does so is not a true friend.  Gain your independence by taking off the shackles and freeing yourself from these bullies.  

9.  Make you feel like you’re burdening them.

True friendship is never burdened with stressful promises and obligations.  What true friends do for each other should be done because they care and because they want to do them.  Period.
So don’t chase people.  They don’t need to be chased.  If someone is a true friend and wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever force yourself on someone who continuously overlooks your worth.

One of my favorite verses Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another . NIV

I thank and praise God for the wonderful friends He has given me throughout my lifetime.
I desire to BE A GOOD FRIEND.
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Thursday, October 10, 2013


AGENDA - n.   A list of things to be dealt with.

I've been thinking a lot lately about people's AGENDA, especially on fb and blogging.  

As I look carefully at the various posts and entries of people I follow, I notice they seem to follow several main categories: 
  1. Scriptures and words about various scriptures.  This consists of just words or pictures with an important message.
  2. Our Christian stand. 
  3. General quotations.
  4. Daily happenings.
  5. Family.
  6. Church.  
  7. Tips and advice on natural remedies,
  8. Health issues and ailments.
  9. Health advice and remedies.
  10. Running, races, exercise.
  11. The general state of our nation and the world. 
  12. Political - either pro or con: democrat or republican; pro or anti Obama.
  13. Gun control.
  14. Recipes - ALL kinds.
  15. Promoting a product.
  16. Building a business.
  17. Photos.
  18. Funny pictures and jokes.
  19. Complaining 
There are more, but these seem to be the bulk of what I see. The ones I post and blog about myself are usually
:  my faith, my family, my church and church activities, our friends, how blessed I am or God and what's happening in our live in general.  These are my AGENDA because they are my list of things to be dealt with.  

I would be interested to see if you see these's things as my AGENDA.  

I also wonder what you feel your AGENDA is and whether, from following you, I would see that as your AGENDA.  

Just some random thoughts. 

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Wednesday, October 9, 2013


Mickey & I recently joined up with 5 other families to form Coweta Milk Co-op.  We've been working on setting it up,getting all the guidelines, rules, procedures, etc. in place. We are rotation making the trip to Claremore, and Swan Diary, every two weeks.   

Mickey & I started off the rotation this morning. I had done all the preliminary things I could in advance. Purchased a receipt book, got the 4 families who ordered this week order's off our fb group page.  Figured the approximate bill for each family.  The milk and cream prices are set, but the cheese prices vary a small bit because the .5#, 1# and 2 1/2# bulk cheese come in hunks.

We wanted to get an early start so we started out at 8:49 on this beautiful, bright, clear, crisp morning.  Set our mileage counter to see exactly what the mileage and drive time would be.  

We could either take the turnpike and pay the toll, or we could drive the regular highway.  We opted to not go the turnpike route.  All was fine for our first 16.7 minutes as we travel from Coweta northward.  Problem #1 occurred when we turned too soon and ended up on the turnpike. No problem, we'll just take it on into Claremore. 

Problem #2 occurred when we got off the turnpike and weren't sure which way to turn, as we had not looked up directions using the turnpike route.  Nearing the turnpike exit Mickey takes his wallet out to pay the toll.  After paying the toll and exiting the turnpike we decided to turned right/West and went quite a few blocks.  After deciding it was too "city" we turned around and headed back East.  When it looked like we were getting too far into the country we decided to stop at a tractor business and inquire.  Where is Swan Diary?  We had been correct in turning West and was told it was behind the Motel Six.  So we turn around and head back East.  Then we see a Motel 8, not Six, and realize, yes, this is the correct street to turn on.  It was right there. Boy, were we relieved to be here!!!!

We park and go into the very small retail area with our list. The gentleman fills the order for the # of gallons of both raw & pasteurized milk.  He tells me the cream and the cheeses are behind me in the refrigerated case.  So I get our cream order and start on the cheese orders.  Problem #3 they were out of both Colby & Mozzarella so 2 of the gals did not get their order filled completely.  

We pick-up our plastic bags and place them in the area behind the seats in our HHR, start up the car to go and Mickey says, "Where is my wallet?"  WHAT......Problem #4 and the real problem has just raised it's ugly head.  We search the car, upside down, front seat, back seat, behind where all the bags are, under the seats, in the glovebox, under the floor mats, by the side of the front seats.  EVERYWHERE.  No wallet.  He goes back into the retail area thinking maybe he laid it on the check-out counter...NO.  Back to the vehicle again, and re-search all over again....NO.  We start up the vehicle and drive back out to the tractor place where he had asked directions, thinking maybe he left it there.....NO.  Nothing to do but head home, scans the wallet.  He is so angry with himself.  I'm thinking, "How could you loose your wallet?"  

To say we are both frustrated is an understatement but there is nothing to do but come on home.  We reset our mileage reader to obtain an ACCURATE mileage reading and make the return trip using HW66 and not the turnpike.  Mileage one-way is only 32.0 miles. Not bad at all. 

We return to our house to sort out and repackage the 4 individual orders and figure the exact cost per family.  It all adds up .....Praise the Lord to the total we had paid.  

Mickey had place a blanket in the back of the vehicle where we were putting the purchases and he thought perhaps he might find the wallet under that blanket......NO.  He did one final search of the car and low and behold....stuck under his front seat was said wallet.  BIG sign of total relief!!!  And a huge THANK YOU LORD!!!

I had my camera, was going to take pictures of this new adventure...guess what?  Not one picture.  Oh well hopefully when we make our next trip on November 20th, we'll know where to turn and how to do it correctly.


Keeping life in perspective....5 years ago today 
October 9, 2005 Mickey was having Double Bi-Pass Heart Surgery
today was nothing, even with the little frustrations and issues. 

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